Can you be friends after dating
There are times for stiffening your upper lip but this isn’t one of them.
Let it all out on your nearest and dearest, and don’t feel ashamed about it.
Potentially, you might salvage a friendship from the wreckage some time down the line, but when you’re emotionally raw you need time apart from the source of your hurt.
If you burnt your hand on a fire, you wouldn’t return to the fire to try and soothe your burn would you?
So, maybe wait a while before getting ‘Life’s a Bitch’ inked on your thigh.
We know; you’ve spent months or even years knowing almost every detail of your partner’s life and now, nothing. But whatever you do, try to resist the temptation to keep a foothold in their life by checking up on them.
Your ex’s reaction will most likely be one of revulsion and then you’ll be in an even deeper despair than before.
It might not feel like it right now, but being alone is far better than being in a bad relationship.
And if it’s because you think you have a chance of getting back together then you’re just setting yourself up for more hurt.
Give yourself time to recover and then, when you’re ready, you can start looking for love again. We all know at least one person who’s had a break-up makeover.
Sometimes it works, but usually cutting off your long blonde locks and dying your new crop black just to show you’re a ‘new’ person becomes something you regret.
Focus on your own life and try to stop thinking about what they may or may not be doing without you.
Social media has opened up our world and helped us keep in touch with friends, family and people we didn’t even know we wanted to know.
In a few days, I’m going to Cuba on vacation with a guy I’ve been sleeping with for eight years, but whom I've never once called my boyfriend.